#534 Nicole is getting married in 10 Days

As a father, I struggled when Carlos - we call him Carlitos, came to us and asked if he could go out with Nicole - just as friends he said, nothing serious - just getting to know each other. yeah right I thought to myself - just friends !! At the time Nicole was fifteen.

I came into Nicoles life only five years before. We had just celebrated Nicole's 15th birthday, she was excited about getting a horse, playing the harp and just plain enjoying high school. Suddenly Carlitos came into the picture. I knew it would not take long for Nicole to get a date and be seeing by the guys - but so fast? I was taken by surprise.

She is cute, good looking, smart and has all the traits for being an incredible spouse. She will do well and be a great christian leader, wife, and mother.

But I was not ready!! Fast forward- Nicole turned 20 this year. Carlitos popped the question six months ago, and gave Nicole a beautiful ring, Nicole said yes, and here we are, only 10 days before they tie the knot and venture into their life as a couple and establish their new family.

Don't misunderstand me, let me clarify, Carlitos is a good man. Nancy and I are so happy and support this relationship. We feel they are a great match. Carlos loves the Lord, he is a hard working guy. He is graduating as an accountant from the local University this year. Carlitos and Nicole surrounded themselves with good friends and a strong church. They waited, prayed and have overcome some of the early hurdles as a young dating couple.

We are excited and wish them well. I will be performing the wedding ceremony. I will try not to break down. My hope is to keep it personal, warm, funny and bible based. I have built I wonderful rapport with Carlitos. We have done some adventure racing together, gone on trips, made meals, played games, talked about life, books, and men to men conversations.

I thank God for Carlitos, this young man who found our daughter. I am thankful for Nicole and the opportunity God is giving her to meet an outstanding young man who loves the Lord and loves her more than anyone in this world. Our prayer is that our four kids makes good choices with their mates and learn to overcome some of the challenges a good marriage in this era represents.

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